Friday, April 06, 2007

Haa..wow @ the enormous list of replies today! I suppose, like Dilys, I've been too lazy to get about writing and have been following the discussion instead. Perhaps I should add the third guy's opinion on the issue, but nonetheless due to how volatile this issue is, let me add my very own disclaimer: some things might appear slightly immoral/politically incorrect/ assholic, so hope i don't get bombed for this!

Back to the original issue..as per what siying said, some guys come along one day and say, "i'm breakin up with my gf cause she's not pretty enough" Practically we can see it on the superficial side, taking it literally as the girl being not attractive enough as deemed by the media trend. Take for example: the Dove commercial everytime you catch a movie, or the thought-provoking advertisement on the bus. There are several trends in this world that many people consider pretty, like the fact that the majority of the public feel that its a necessity for one to have 双眼皮, or suffer anorexically to attain a stick-thin figure for a woman to be truly called a beauty who launches a thousand ships.

It's not as simple as in the animal world; frogs and birds have simple phenotypes that just need to be gaudy to attract mates, but as humans, we have many intangible factors to consider when we search for a partner, not withstricted to the size of the bosom or the gluteus maximus.So I suppose my stick would be..not whether the girl's prettiness adheres to the societal precedence towards a certain trend, but about how the girl presents herself to each individual. Surely, it is a definite yes that good looks, no matter how grey that area can be defined, are the initiating factor that fires off the synapses of a man's brain. We naturally will be interested in females who appeal to our very own definition of lovely, no matter how skewed or warped it might be. Some of us look out for curvy figures, some for a well sculpted, symmetrical face, or some tend to sway towards ladies with gorgeous length legs. Some like the chilli-padiesque girl, while some hit on the elegant ladies with that poise. Some hit the jackpot by getting all of the above, but as what Dilys said, what matters more is the inner beauty. Sure, it sounds cliche and so very hypocritical of me as another hot-blooded bachelor to say so when in essence, the 4 of us left in singapore still gawk at pretty ladies down Orchard, or gush about how goddess-like Felicia Chin may be to each other.

Okay, back to the issue before I move off tangent. What siying commented about us as being humans, that not everything has to be dictated by primal instinct is pretty true especially when we are capable of higher levels of cognition..otherwise we would be apes who fall out of trees alot. Nonetheless allow me to speak a word of defence fo the general male population..that sometimes we, no matter how highly educated or well mannered, are ruled by a dominant part of the brain that lies down in the groin area. When you see men go gaga and act idiotic in the party of women, that's Mr. Pants taking over..and theres nothing Brain can do about it. Truly, it is primal/human instinct that such parts of the brain have higher priority in the pecking order of thought, but think of it another way; we don't "grab and shag" like animals do, thats the least Brain can do for us! Like many of my brethren would always say..hey we're only human..
K...my final parting shot before I leave for Mahjong at LJ's again! Sometimes us guys agree, and sometimes we don't on how pretty a good looks. One might think she's hot, one might think she's ugly. That's how the quirks of our mind functions: Each of us have our definition of beauty no matter how skewed it would be in the world of plastic surgery, mass media and computer airbrushwork. The initial attraction and urge to get the number of that lady sitting opposite you would almost 100%ly be attributed to how good she looks, regardless Plain Jane or not according to societal standards *hehe LJ..*, but later on, prettiness would then transform itself in the eyes of the beholder. This is a far and very skewed example, but when the aforementioned guy says his gf is not pretty enough, he is insinuating that she is not attractive enough to him. Sure, he can go at lengths to reason that she is inadequate in this department, or severely well endowed in other unwanted ones, but this could also mean that the girl just didn't let her inner beauty shine through to, crudely again, take him by the balls. Does this mean its the girl's fault? Neither would it be, for it takes 2 hands to clap.

So let me end my post without inflamatory material...everybody has their obvious and hidden strengths. Every girl is beautiful, one way or another, and in a biblical view that every woman is forged from the rib of a man, I'm pretty sure as heck that man is hunting for his missing rib *damnnit...where the ****'s that rib!!!!* It only takes a glance from a girl to set a guy's heart aflutter, but it would need more than that look to keep our hearts from hitting ground zero.

Yup's that's my skewed take on beauty. We should send this whole thread down to Dove, we might win something! *will make LJ take pictures of Mahjong this time..seeya all soon!*

jiaho rocking off at 8:01 PM

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